Fetish Terminology by Feteessh.com

What is a Fetish? A 'fetish' is an object or action that isn’t inherently sexual, but carries sexual association or is a turn-on for a given person.

  • 24/7 - Power exchange relationship in which certain protocols are in place continuously, 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

  • Ablutophilia - Fetish for baths or showers that centers around a naked person lathering themselves up, causing sexual arousal.

  • ABR -  Adult breastfeeding fetish. Common practice when one of the participants involves a woman who is lactating after childbirth.

  • Abrasion - Using something rough such as sandpaper, across an individual's skin, that creates sexual arousal.

  • Acomoclitic -  Fetish for hairless genitals.

  • Acousticophilia - A fetish from sounds such as music, a partner's moaning or screaming that induces sexual arousal or stimulation.

  • Acrophilia - A fetish for having sex in high places. Common practice for individuals who engage in sex on airplanes, joining the mile-high-club.

  • Actirasty - Sexual arousal received from the sun’s rays. A common fetish of tanorexics, participants of outdoor sex or individuals who prefer to date really tan people.

  • Acucullophilia - A fetish involving an individual's attraction to circumcised men.

  • Adolescentilism - A fetish involving acting, dressing or being treated like an adolescent.

  • Aftercare - After a BDSM play session, this is when participants calm down, talk about the scene they engaged in as well as each individual's personal reactions to them. This allows participating individuals to slowly come back down to reality. Aftercare may involve the Dominant caring for the Submissive if physical pain was inflicted during the scene. Dominants  failure to engage in sufficient aftercare can lead to Subdrop.

  • Agalmatophilia - A fetish that involves sexual attraction to statues, mannequin dolls or similar figurative objects.

  • Age Play - Roleplay or role play of individuals involving a distinct difference in ages that may include a power exchange based on ages of role-playing participants. Example could be an older woman and younger man.

  • Agonophiliac - A fetish where an individual is sexually aroused by watching or directly involved in actual fighting or combat based sports.

  • Agoraphilia - A fetish that induces extreme sexual arousal for individuals engaging in sex in public places or outdoors.

  • Agrexophilia - A fetish of engaging in sex acts in places or situations where others can catch you having sex.

  • Air Inflation - Inflation fetish where some individuals enjoy pumping air into their partner's anus.

  • Algolagnia - A fetish causing sexual arousal when inflicting pain on oneself or others.

  • Alloandrism - A fetish fantasy that increases the sexual arousal or orgasm by an individual who is fantasizing about another man, other than the man you are currently engaged in sex with.

  • Allorgasmia - A fetish fantasy that increases sexual arousal or orgasm by an individual who is fantasizing about someone other than the individual you are currently engaged in sex with.

  • Allogynia - A fetish fantasy that increases sexual arousal or orgasm by an individual who is fantasizing about another woman, other than the woman you are currently engaged in sex with.

  • Allotriorasty - A fetish or fantasy about having sex partners of another race, ethnicity or nationality. A common fantasy is for a white female fantasizing of engaging in sex with a black man.

  • Alphamegamia - A fetish for a partner of a different age group such as an older man and a younger woman or an older woman and a younger man.

  • Alternative Sexuality - Different behaviors in contrast or opposition to socially and culturally acceptable sexual activities.

  • Altocalciphilia - A fetish that entails intense sexual urges and arousal involving high heels or stilettos, either fantasizing about looking at a great set of legs wearing them or putting a pair on. This is a common fetish among individuals with a foot fetish.

  • Alvinolagnia - A fetish for bellies, stomachs or female midriff exposure. WHR (waist-hip ratio) is a significant measure of the attractiveness of a female.

  • Amaurophilia - A fetish for total darkness by turning off all lights or blindfolding while engaged in sex. Can be due to low physical self-esteem or feelings of inadequacy.

  • Anaclitism - An erotic fixation or sexual arousal on objects one was exposed to as an infant, such as pacifiers, baby bottles, anal thermometers or bibs.

  • Anal Fetish - Individuals who have an obsession to observe or engage in anal sexual activity.

  • Anasteemaphilia - Individuals who are sexually aroused by other people of extreme stature, either a giant or a dwarf.

  • Androidism - Sexual arousal or fetish for robots with human features.

  • Andromimetophilia - Fetish or sexual arousal to women or tranny men who act, dress or are treated like a man.

  • Animal Transformation - Fetish by a Dominant which involves a Sub to enter the altered mind space of becoming a different animal species such as a dog, cat, horse or cow.

  • Animated Kink - Individuals who are sexually aroused or have a fetish for sexual, animated kink.

  • Anophelorastia - A fetish or sexual arousal of ravaging ones partner.

  • Aphephilia - A fetish which creates sexual arousal or sexual pleasure from the human touch.

  • Aquaphilia - A sexual fetish of watching actual individuals or viewing images of people engaging in sexual activities, swimming or posing in water.

  • Archnephilia - A fetish by individuals which creates sexual arousal to seeing spiders or having spiders crawl on them.

  • Asiaphile - A fetish whereas an individual is sexually aroused by Asian women.

  • Asphyxiophilia - A fetish which involves a dangerous and potentially deadly form of sexual masochism for being suffocated or choked whereas ones brain is intentionally deprived of oxygen, heightening sexual stimulation.

  • Asthenolagnia - A fetish where one derives sexual stimulation and arousal when being humiliated. Also referred to as erotic humiliation.

  • Auctioned Off - Dominant supervises and auctions off a slave to the highest bidder for temporary use.

  • Autagonistophilia - A fetish which causes intense sexual arousal by having others spy on you while being nude or while engaged in sexual acts. Individuals will create situations such as, undressing in front of an open window or nude sunbathing.

  • Autoandrophilia - A fetish of biological women who are sexually aroused at the thought of being a man.

  • Auto-Erotic Asphyxiation - An extremely dangerous fetish which involves choking yourself with ropes or a belt while masturbating to achieve a more intense orgasm. Just to name a few people who have died from this form of masturbation include Kung-fu master/actor David Carradine, cartoonist/illustrator Vaughn Bode, musician Kevin Gilbert, actor/politician Albert Dekker, lead singer of rock band INXS Michael Hutchence, British politician Stephen Milligan and composer Frantisek Kotzwara.

  • Autogynephilia - Fetish by men who become sexually aroused at the thought of being a woman. Underlying transvestism or MtF transsexualism.

  • Autonepiophilia - A fetish where one is sexually aroused by role-playing as an infant which includes, being treated like an infant by drinking from a bottle or wearing diapers, acting and being dressed like an infant.

  • Autoplushophilia - Fetish that causes sexual arousal to oneself when dressed as a giant cartoon-like stuffed animal or, imagining oneself as a representation of anthropomorphic animal characters or a plushie.

  • Axillism - A fetish where one is sexually attracted to armpits.

  • Bathroom Denial - A type of fetish and BDSM play in which the Dominant refuses to allow the Sub to urinate and/or defecate.

  • BDSM - Modern acronym for Bondage and Discipline, referring to the fetish communities and kinky activities. Also can stand for Dominance and Submission, Sadism and Masochism, Sadomasochism and Slave/Master.

  • Belonephilia - A fetish for the sexual obsession of sharp objects such as pins, needles, knives or razors.

  • BFP - Acronym for Bound for Pleasure.

  • Blood Choking - Dangerous sexual fetish that involves causing someone to pass out or begin to lose consciousness, by restricting the blood flow to their brain.

  • Body Inflation - Fetish of being sexually aroused by the fantasy of physically expanding yourself or others which involves wearing an inflation device under your clothing.

  • Bondage - Fetish where on is consensually bound by restraints for sex, sexual dominance or art, that may include leather bondage, rope bondage, suspension bondage, predicament bondage or furniture and device bondage.

  • Bondage Babe - A woman dressed in fetish gear, to participate in various bondage acts, that may include fishnet stockings, latex or collars. Frequently is a woman who is a fetish model who only participates in fetishistic acts for pay.

  • Bottom - A BDSM role referring to the person or sex partner who is submissive to a dominant partner.

  • Bottom Space - The mental space of a submissive partner engaged in fetish play with a dominant partner.

  • Bound in Public - Fetish of individuals who are sexually aroused from being bound and sexually used in public or individuals who receive sexual satisfaction from bounding and sexually using another individual in public.

  • Branding - A form of body modification in which the skin is scarred using a heated object to demonstrate ownership of a Sub by a Master.

  • Breast Bondage - A BDSM act that involves tying a woman's breasts so that they are flattened against the chest or bulge, using a rope or something similar.

  • Breast Expansion - Growth fetish related to weight gain or inflation of ones breast by means of saline injections or animation.

  • Breast Torture - Fetish of torturing and causing pain to female or male breasts using nipple clamps, spanking, excessive squeezing, flogging, constriction using rope or dripping hot wax on the breast flesh.

  • Breathplay - BDSM act of choking and/or restricting the breath of an individual to intensify an orgasm or to increase the sexual pleasure during a sex act. Breathplay is considered very dangerous, falling into the category of edgepay.

  • Breath Control - The act of a Dominant who controls the breathing of a Submissive.

  • Butt Plug - Sex toy inserted into the anus for sexual pleasure, used by those with a fetish for anal insertion. The Butt Plug is a pear-shaped dildo to hold the plug in place, with a flared base that prevents it from being lost in the anal cavity.

  • Cage Fetish - A fetish for being confined by a Dominant or confining a Sub in a small space such as a cage, box or a closet by a Dominant. The Sub is then tortured, taunted, teased and/or ignored by the Dom.

  • Candaulism - A fetish for ones voyeuristic pleasure by showing off your partner or images of her/him to others.

  • Caning - BDSM activity which involves using a cane to strike someone across broad, fleshy areas of the body including the butt or backs of the thighs as well as, across the bottoms of the feet. The cane can be made from various materials including wood, plastic or any semi-flexible material.

  • Castration Fetish - A body modification fetish for being castrated, castrating others or for people who were castrated.

  • Catheterophilia - A fetish one has for having catheters inserted.

  • Cat O' Nine Tails - A multi-tailed whip frequently used during fetish play.

  • CBT Fetish - Cock and Ball Torture which entails specific techniques for the torture of male genitalia.

  • Chasmophilia - Sexual arousal or fetish for being in or hiding in a small space, small crevices or cavern.

  • Chastity - Referred to as a chastity belt for women or a cock cage for men. Sexual denial or orgasm denial is expelled by a dominating partner that prevents ones access to stimulating their genitals, at the decision of the Dominant, by means of a lock on the chastity.

  • Choker - A collar is a choker frequently worn by a Sub in the BDSM scene to signify ownership by a Master, much in the same way a wedding ring signifies a vanilla relationship. Chokers  or collars are often used on Subs during fetish acts.

  • Choreophilia - A sexual fetish for dancing or dry humping another individual on a dance floor until you reach orgasm. 

  • Chrematistophilia - A fetish for paying for sex, or being robbed or blackmailed by a sex partner.

  • Chrysophilia - A fetish that causes sexual arousal by looking at or touching gold or gold colored objects.

  • Collared - A fetish where one is a submissive or slave who is owned and controlled by a dominant, as per BDSM rules. A dominant may have multiple subs or slaves collared.

  • Collaring - An identity representation which carries symbolic weight, from a dominant to a submissive, by whatever means chosen by the dom. BDSM collaring ceremonies are common practice and can range anywhere from a simple commitment to a serious level with that of an engagement or marriage.

  • Consent - In a BDSM scene or in a BDSM relationship, consent is an individuals way of saying ‘yes’ - of ones own free will, non-pressured and uncoerced. The heart of all things kinky, consent is vital when engaging in any BDSM activity.

  • Consensual Nonconsent / ConNonCon - A scene frequently referred to as ‘play rape’, the scene may appear to be violent and without the consent of one party. Before the scene begins, a safeword is announced along with an extensive discussion of boundaries and limits for both parties.

  • Consent Non-Consent / Consensual NonConsensuality - During a scene, a show of trust and understanding by partners who know each other very well and who already share the knowledge of clear safe limits in place. Consent is already in place based on defined safe limits previously shared.

  • Contract - A non-legally binding written agreement derived upon after much negotiation, between a dominant & submissive, outlining boundaries, rules, guidelines and structure of the relationship.

  • Coulrophilia - A fetish where one is aroused by clowns or other types of street performers.

  • Counting Games - At the demand of the dominant, while a submissive is being spanked, flogged or whipped, the submissive is required to keep count of the number of strikes they have taken. This BDSM game frequently involves variations of the phrase, “Thank you master, may I have another.”

  • Crurophilia - A fetish where one can be sexually aroused by looking at what they refer to as, sexy legs.

  • Cuckold Fetish - A man who is sexually stimulated by being humiliated by his sexual partner.

  • Cum Inflation - A version of inflation fetish whereby a man fantasizes about pumping a huge amount of semen into his female sex partner, causing her body to bulge and swell with cum.

  • Cutting Fetish - Sexual arousal one receives while inflicting cuts on oneself or on a sex partner.

  • Dacryphilia Fetish - One who is sexually aroused by watching someone crying or sobbing.

  • Degradation - A fetish where one enjoys being psychologically degraded or degrading their partner.

  • Dendrophilia - A fetish where one fantasizes about having sex with trees.

  • Denial - BDSM play where a partner is denied of reaching an orgasm, denied the right to use the bathroom or denied food and/or water.

  • Device Bondage - In BDSM, the use of extreme restraints or barbaric metal devices on a consenting partner.

  • Diaper Fetish - Individuals who are aroused by wearing a diaper. Some extreme diaper fetishists make themselves incontinent so that they have to wear diapers constantly.

  • Dippoldism Fetish - Individuals who are sexually aroused by spanking or physically abusing another person.

  • Discipline - A dominant partner training a submissive on fetish protocol or dominant punishment inflicted on a submissive for disobedience.

  • Divine Bitches - Beautiful, dominating women who dominate submissive men by inducing pain, humiliation and strap-on dildo fucking on the sub.

  • DM / Dungeon Monitor - The bouncer at a BDSM event. A person supervising interactions, BDSM activity or enforcing house rules among participants at a BDSM play party or BDSM dungeons. DM’s can also be the BDSM play director to get or keep the BDSM party going.

  • Dog Training - A role play in BDSM when a submissive partner is treated like a dog.

  • Dominance and Submission / D&S / D/S - Erotic power exchange. BDSM term where one is the dominating individual and the other is submissive during a scene or in a BDSM relationship.

  • Dominant/Dom - In a BDSM relationship or scene, they are the individual who exercises control and is the dominating male or female who has, takes or receives power.

  • Dominatrix - Female who exercises control over a sub who can can be male or female.

  • Domme - Dominant female exercising control by taking or receiving the power to control a sub, who can be male or female.

  • Doraphilia Fetish - Sexual stimulation derived by the smell or feel of fur, leather or animal skin.

  • Dracophilia Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused at the thought of or looking at dragons.

  • Dungeon - In BDSM, a large play space in a home or conference room, where kink furniture and restraints may be in place. Participants gather in a dungeon to engage in BDSM play parties, abiding by the rules and etiquette controlled by the DM. Dungeons can be a common area to socialize with other BDSM players as well as, a quiet place for aftercare and cuddling.

  • Dungeon Master - A person responsible for safety in the Dungeon, usually an experienced member of the community, sometimes the host. They walk around, check in on different scenes, are responsible for ousting unsafe or inappropriate players etc.

  • Dungeon Monitor - During a BDSM scene, DM is the person responsible for safety in the Dungeon. The DM is usually an experienced member of the BDSM community or the host. The DM will walk around to monitor play, check in on different scenes and are responsible for removing unsafe or inappropriate players.

  • Ecouteurism Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused by listing in on others having sex.

  • Edgeplay - BDSM play that involves a chance of an individual being physically or emotionally harmed. A BDSM practice that is considered inherently more risky or debated within the BDSM community.

  • Electrophilia Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused by electricity or electro-stimulation.

  • Electrosluts Fetish - Females who live out their electric bondage fantasies allowing dominatrixes to use electrodes, paddles, cattle prods and other similar electric generating tools to bring them to intense orgasms!

  • Electro-Play Fetish - Using electrical stimulation to the body using a power source such as a Violet wand, TENS and other made-for-play units for the purpose of sexual stimulation, torture or tickling.

  • Endytophilia - A fetish for sexual partners who remain clothed during sexual engagement.

  • Enema - The act of douching or cleaning the vagina, anal cavity or rectum., which can allso be a fetish.

  • Erotic Sexual Denial - Maintaining the sexual arousal of another person, while delaying or preventing resolution of their sexual feelings, to heighten sexual sensitivity.

  • Erotic Sexual Humiliation or Personal Degradation - Consensual use of sexual, psychological humiliation, whereby an individual is sexually aroused by being humiliated and demeaned, or another person is sexually aroused by humiliating another individual.

  • Erotic Spanking - Individuals who receive sexual stimulation from the act of spanking or being spanked.

  • Erotophobia - Fear of expressing or experiencing sexual desires.

  • Exhibitionist - An individual who exposes themself in public, for their own sexual pleasure.

  • Female Muscle Fetish - A fetish for muscular females or the desire of a sub to be dominated by a physically superior female

  • Fetish - An obsession or delight in any specific object or specific experience.

  • Fetishism - An individual's sexual arousal to objects or actions.

  • Fetishize - An individuals development of a sexual obsession around an object or act.

  • Fetish Dating - Individuals who meet and date other like minded individuals who share the same fetish, in an attempt to find their fetish soul mate.

  • Fire Play - Considered edgeplay. Obtaining sexual arousal by using fire during sex.

  • Fisting - A sexual act in which one individual inserts their fist or part thereof into a consenting partners vagina or anus.

  • Flagellation - An act during sex where an individual will strike their consenting partner with a whip or paddle creating sexual arousal in both parties.

  • Flip Flop - An individual who can serve as either the dominant or submissive partner at different times during a relationship or a single sex scene.

  • Flogger - A type of whip with multiple tails, of various sizes, made from various materials such as leather or suede with a handle made from wood or other synthetic material, used by individuals during a sex scene.

  • Flogging - During a sex scene, this is an activity common to a BDSM scene whereby an individual uses a flogger to create and enhance sexual arousal in consenting, participating partners.

  • Foot Fetish - A sexual fetish whereby an individual is sexually aroused by looking at or touching feet or footwear in a provocative manner.

  • Formicophilia - The sexual fetish of allowing insects such as ants to crawl on or nibble at you or your genitals.

  • Frot - A fetish act whereby two males engage in rubbing their two penises together, increasing sexual arousal.

  • Frottage - Non-penetrative sex acts that involves rubbing against sex organs or other parts of the human body, causing intense sexual pleasure of both parties.

  • Fuck Machine - A mechanical device, tipped with a dildo, that simulates human sexual intercourse.

  • Furry Fetish - Individuals who become sexually aroused by wearing furry costumes to either dry hump or engage in anonymous sex with others in furry costumes or, have sex with stuffed animals.

  • Furvert - Individuals who have a fetish for pubic hair.

  • Gag - Commonly used in BDSM scenes, any object used to obstruct a person's breathing or to prevent them from talking during sex.

  • Gagging - In sex, a term used to refer to a partner choking during fellatio and deep throating.

  • Gangbang - Sex act that involves a single consenting individual to engage in sexual intercourse, oral sex and/or anal sex with 3 or more willing individuals.

  • Genitorture - Torture of the male genitals.

  • Golden Shower Fetish - Individuals who are sexually aroused by peeing on someone and/or being peed on.

  • Goo Fetish - A fetish which individuals are sexually aroused by playing with gooey substances.

  • Good Pain - A term used by individuals who engage in BDSM, good pain is an enjoyable consensual, pleasurable pain.

  • Gorean - In BDSM, 24/7 master/slave relationships are often referred to as Gorean relationships. Gorean households and couples follow strict protocol that involve specific postures and rituals..

  • Gymnophilia - A fetish for nudity - either being nude or seeing others nude.

  • Hanky Code / Flagging / Bandana Code - Handkerchief code used by gay men and BDSM fetishists, whereby different colors indicate different areas of BDSM interest. Individuals wearing a certain colored hanky, in certain pockets communicate their individual preferences to others. A hanky in the left pocket indicates you are a dominant and hanky in right pocket indicates you are a submissive. Hanky color codes have changed over time.

  • Hard Limits - In BDSM, hard limits specify certain activities or actions that an individual is not comfortable with now and they cannot see themselves becoming comfortable with them in the future.

  • Harem - A group of subs serving one or more dominants.

  • High Protocol - In BDSM, a term used to specify strict rules of conduct during a play scene.

  • Hirsutophilia - A fetish for body hair.

  • Hodophilia - A fetish for travel.

  • Hogtie/Hogtied - Using physical restraints such as rope or handcuffs on the wrists or ankles of a submissive, fastening them together behind their back.

  • Homilophilia - A fetish for listening to or delivering speeches or sermons. Some believed Hitler had this fetish.

  • Humiliation Fetish - Fetish play in which the submissive is made to feel degraded or humiliated, either penis humiliation or public humiliation, creating sexual arousal in the sub.

  • Hygrophilia - A fetish for body fluids such as semen, sweat, saliva or tears.

  • Hyper Fetish - A desire for having a specific body part that is absurdly large such as hyper breasts, hyper muscles, hyper testicles, hyper ass or a hyper penis. Individuals can make these fantasies come true with implants, bodybuilding or and saline injections.

  • Hyphephilia - Becoming sexually aroused by touching, rubbing or feeling leather, fur, skin, hair or fabric when in the proximity of erotic parts of the body.

  • Impact Play - Sensation play that includes but is not limited to flogging, spanking, slapping, caning, punching or hitting. This BDSM activity involves striking your consenting partner with a whip or your hand, for example.  Never get involved in Impact Play without first practicing on a pillow, until you have the proper control of the strike you make. Everyone has a different pain tolerance and you may be hitting much harder than you think so never assume that your partner is making a “mountain out of a molehill” if they say the pain is too much. If you surpass your partner's pain tolerance by being overly anxious with your strikes, play time may end abruptly and your partner will now dread play time or will decline Impact Play again, period. To avoid physical injury to the receiver, avoid striking bony areas such as the tailbone and spine. Never strike between the hips and the ribs because if you hit the receiver in the kidney area you can cause serious physical damage. Before you strike, be sure to aim for muscular or fatty areas such as the buttocks, thighs, arms or breasts. Always stay in constant verbal communication with your partner and ask how each blow feels.

  • Impregnation Fetish - One having a fetish or fantasy of impregnating a sex partner.

  • Infantilism Fetish - Having the desire to act, be treated like and dressing as an infant. Extremest of this fetish often hire a dominatrix to serve as their nanny.

  • Icolagnia Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused by looking at nude photos, images or statues.

  • Katoptronophilia Fetish - A fetish for engaging in sexual activities and viewing them in a mirror. Individuals become sexually aroused by having sex, stripping, masturbating or engaging in an orgy while in front of mirrors.

  • Kinbaku/Shibari - A BDSM practice where a sub is tied up using simple, yet visually intricate patterns of a Japanese type bondage, using several pieces of thin rope. The Japanese phrase means tight binding.

  • Kinesophilia - A fetish for exercise.

  • Kink - Terminology that refers to an unconventional method that creates sexual arousal.

  • Kinky - Term referring to individuals who are open to a variety of unconventional methods that cause sexual arousal.

  • Klismaphilia - A fetish where individuals are sexually aroused by receiving enemas.

  • Knife Play - BDSM scene play that involves the use of, the threat of or becoming sexually aroused at the presence of knives. Knife Play is considered edgeplay.

  • Knismolagnia/Knismo - Individuals who are sexually aroused by being tickled have this fetish.

  • Lactation Fetish - Individuals who are sexually aroused by lactating breasts and want to be nursed or nurse their partner.

  • Lactophilia - Individuals who are aroused by consuming breast milk.

  • Latex Fetish - Individuals who are sexually aroused by touching or wearing latex clothing.

  • Leather Fetish - Individuals who are sexually aroused by wearing or touching leather clothing.

  • Leather Subculture - Leather culture involves wearing leather clothing, such as leather jackets, leather boots, leather vests, chaps and harnesses, just to name a few, and is widely seen inside gay communities, frequently associated with gay men. The practice of wearing leather clothing is also seen throughout the straight world, bisexuals and by lesbians. The fetish of wearing leather garments during sexual activities is common. Wearing leather garments is one way those involved in leather culture distinguish themselves from mainstream sexual cultures.

  • Lesbophilia Fetish - Referring to a man who has a fetish fantasy of being a lesbian. This fetish is also commonly found among men who are sexually aroused or obsessed with girl-on-girl sex.

  • Limits - During a BDSM scene, this represents what a participant will not do or if they are hesitant to do something.

  • Low Protocol - In BDSM lifestyles, referent to individuals who are more relaxed with BDSM activities.

  • Macro Fetish - A fetish for giant, though not necessarily obese, sex partners. Often reserved for the realm of anime or fantasy.

  • Macrogenitalism - A fetish of finding a partner with significantly larger genitals, to satisfy ones sexual desire.

  • Macrophilia - A fetish individuals have that causes sexual arousal at the thought of engaging in sex with a partner who is substantially larger than they are or a partner who resembles a giant, and being at the complete mercy of a much larger sex partner.

  • Maintenance - A BDSM act that involves weekly spankings of the submissive by the Dominant, allowing the Dominant to relieve stress. Maintenance is a method used by a Dominant to remind the submissive of what could be more intensive for a submissive who has misbehaved.

  • Maschalagnia - A fetish of a sexual attraction to armpits which could lead to engaging in sex with an individuals armpits.

  • Masochism - In BDSM, the act of becoming sexually aroused by receiving pain, either physically or psychologically, from a Dominant or being a subservient who receives physical or emotional abuse from a Dominant.

  • Masochist - In BDSM, an individual who derives sexual pleasure while receiving pain.

  • Master - In a BDSM relationship, the term used for the Dominant who has intense power over one or more submissives.

  • Master-Slave Relationship - In a BDSM relationship, an ongoing, power exchange relationship between a Dominant and a submissive.

  • Medical Play - BDSM play or BDSM scenes that involve medical tools or medical equipment. Play time frequently involves needle play and actual piercing.

  • Men in Pain Fetish -Consenting men who derive sexual pleasure from receiving pain. Deriving sexual pleasure by causing pain to other willing men.

  • Mixophilia Fetish - Sexual arousal while watching a partner or yourself engage in sexual activity usually on a recorded video, in mirrors or on sex tapes.

  • Multiple Body Parts - A fetish for sex partners with extra appendages, including breasts, orifices, penises, or limbs. Having multiple breasts may make a sex object seem hyper-female, just as multiple penises may make a male seem hyper masculine. Related to monster fetishes.

  • Mummification - An act to take away all control of a consenting individual by using material such as plastic wrap, fabric or other agreed upon material to wrap and mummify all or part of the body. Safety measures are vital when engaging in this scene play to insure the mouth and nose remain uncovered to allow the individual who is being wrapped, to breath normally. Body temperature of the individual being wrapped should be carefully monitored for apparent safety reasons.

  • Munch - A community event among BDSM players or kinksters that is held at a vanilla bar or restaurant as a place to chat, share interests or plan further gatherings or dates. Street appropriate attire is required to participate.

  • Narratophilia Fetish - Deriving sexual stimulation from dirty talk, stories about sex or general conversations about sex acts.

  • Needle Play - BDSM play scene that involves the use of needles or the threat of the use of needles. Temporary piercings are done with sterile needles of varying gauges, usually only for the duration of a scene.

  • Nipple Clamps - BDSM tool where nipple clips, alligator clamps, tweezers or vice clamps are placed on the consenting individuals nipples, causing pain ranging from a slight twinge to a crushing sting that creates sexual arousal of both parties. Common and popular usage in BDSM breast play but, should not be used for more than a one hour increment at any time to prevent extensive injury to the nipples.

  • Non-Con | Non-consensual BDSM Play - Fetish where consenting individuals engage in rape play in which either partner is sexually aroused by the fantasy of a forced sexual encounter.

  • Nose Torture - BDSM act originating from the Japanese which involves the use of nose hooks.

  • Nyotaimori - Term used for human sushi platters which involves serving foods on the female body. The Japanese practice of serving sushi or sashimi from the naked body of a consenting woman.

  • Objectophilia - Sexual arousal to a particular object of the individuals choice and desire.

  • Odaxelagnia Fetish - Sexual arousal from biting a consenting individual or being bit.

  • Orgasm Denial - Fetish play in which a dominant teases the sub and denies her/him to reach orgasm. This can include the use of such devices as a cock cage for men.

  • Orgy Fetish - Sexual pleasure while engaging in excessive sexual indulgence with several individuals at one time, who are sharing the sexual pleasure.

  • Osmolagnia Fetish - Sexual arousal to body odors emitted from sexual areas of the body or sweat.

  • OTK - Over the knee spanking that creates sexual arousal in participants. In BDSM play, OTK occurs among consenting individuals.

  • Painslut - An individual who derives sexual pleasure from receiving a heavy degree of pain but, may or may not enjoy submitting pain to others.

  • Partialism Paraphilia - Sexual arousal by an individual that involves dedicated focus to a body part other than sex organs to obtain sexual satisfaction.

  • Pegging - A sex act in which a woman penetrates a consenting man's anus with a strap-on dildo.

  • Penis Humiliation Fetish - Deriving sexual arousal by receiving derogatory comments about the size and inadequacies of a mans penis.

  • Pet Play - BDSM play scene that involves an individual acting like a pet, such as a puppy or kitten. The scene can involve individuals having a leash, collar and animal food dishes to expand the Pet Play Power Exchange.

  • Phallophilia Fetish - Strong sexual attraction to large penises.

  • Pictophilia Fetish - Intense sexual arousal obtained while watching porn. An individuals obsession for watching porn. Individuals will reenact sexual acts performed on the porn and will develop a fetish for certain sex acts performed.

  • Play Party - Gathering of kinksters held in a dungeon or other play space where, within the context of the party, couples or groups will play in front of whoever else attends. Play activities may involve various kinky activities that may include sex scenes, bondage and/or sadomasochism.

  • Play Piercing - BDSM play scene where temporary piercings occur of the flesh of consenting individuals, both for the sensation and aesthetic of piercing. Play piercings may be placed in various designs across the body or needles may be attached to string or other points for increased sexual arousal.

  • Plushies | Plushophilia - A fetish where individuals become sexually aroused by stuffed animals.

  • Podophilia - Becoming sexually aroused by looking at, touching or fantasizing about feet.

  • Polyiterophilia Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused when engaged in group sex with consenting partners.

  • Pony Play | Ponygirl or Ponyboy – BDSM play where a consenting player will dress up and act like a human pony. Acting pony may wear the horse mouth bit and anal plug with a tail.

  • Power Exchange - BDSM exchange of power among one or more consenting parties over a period of hours, days, weeks, months or whatever time period parties agree to.

  • Pregnancy Fetish - A fetish for women who are visibly pregnant. This sexual fantasy frequently focuses on swollen breasts and bellies.

  • ProDom - Professional male dominant who charges a fee for his dominating services.

  • ProDomme - Professional female dominant who charges money for her dominating services.

  • Pteronphilia Fetish - Deriving sexual arousal when tickled by feathers.

  • Pubephilia Fetish - Sexually aroused by looking at or rubbing fingers through pubic hair.
     
  • Public Disgrace - BDSM play when submissive slaves engage in unscripted public humiliation and punishment in real life locations.
     
  • Pupplay - BDSM play where a submissive is made to act like a puppy by barking, walking on all fours with a leash and collar and eating from an animal food bowl. Sexual arousal is obtained by both parties during this act as it alters the mind space of the sub, submitting complete control to the Master/Trainer.
     
  • Pussy Hump - An activity by two bi-sexual or lesbian women who rub their pussy’s together during a sex act, to obtain a high level of sexual satisfaction.
     
  • Pussy Torture - BDSM play that involves the torture of a female's genitals by a consenting female, deriving sexual gratification of both participants.
     
  • Pygmalionism Fetish - Fantasy fetish where one is sexually aroused by looking at or rubbing oneself against a statue or human-like image, especially a work that is of one’s own creation.
     
  • Pygophilia Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused by touching, looking at or playing with buttocks of a consenting individual.
     
  • Pyrophilia Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused by using fire or burning objects in a sex play scene.
     
  • Rack | Risk Aware Consensual Kink - Acronym for the view of a permissive attitude for inherently risky BDSM play.
     
  • Rape Fantasy – Fetish fantasy of an individual who fantasizes about being raped. Also referred to as rape play where involved individuals are consensual to the rape role play.
     
  • Retifism Fetish - A foot fetish for womens shoes, such as stilettos.
     
  • Rhabdophilia - A BDSM fetish where one is sexually aroused by being beaten, flogged or whipped.
     
  • Robotism| Robot Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused using robots or automated sex dolls during sex play.
     
  • Rope Bondage Fetish - Roleplay bondage involving the use of rope to restrict movement, suspend or restrain a consensual person.
     
  • Roleplay | Role Play - A fetish where participating individuals assume various roles appealing to each other, either consciously or unconsciously that lead up to engaging in sexual activity. Roleplay is a common fetish for couples who have been married for several years as a way to enhance their sexual relationship and to keep things exciting in the bedroom.
     
  • Rough Sex - BDSM activity that involves rough sex that involves struggling, power play, biting or scratching by consensual parties.
     
  • Sadism | Sadist – Individuals involved in BDSM who enjoy inducing pain on another consensual person for sexual or other gratification.
     
  • Sadomasochism | SNM | S&M - BDSM term for activities in which one partner derives sexual pleasure from administering or receiving psychological or physical pain.
     
  • Safeword - A pre-negotiated codeword that either party can use to pause, check-in or end a sex scene or sex play scene. Safewords function in the same way as the words no or stop.
     
  • Saint Andrews Cross - Piece of equipment in BDSM dungeons, shaped in an X formation, with restraining points for wrists, ankles and waist, whereby the individual is restrained in a spread arm and spreadeagle position.
     
  • Scene - BDSM activities or play time.
     
  • Scopophilia Fetish - Individuals desire to look at sexually stimulating pictures as they fantasize about participating in the activities in the picture.
     
  • Sensation Play - Play that involves the sense of touch to push an individuals sensory limits, consisting of items that are soft, rough or sharp being rubbed on the skin of a consenting individual.
     
  • Sensory Deprivation - In a BDSM scene, depriving a consenting individual of their senses with the use of blindfolds, earplugs, headphones or placing a cloth bag over one’s head.
     
  • Service Oriented Submission - In a BDSM relationship, a submissive who enjoys and focuses on performing services for a Dominant.
     
  • Service Top - A top or Dominant who provides whatever kinky act the bottom or sub wants during a sex scene.
     
  • Siderodromophilia Fetish - Individuals who enjoy having sex while on a train.
     
  • Sitophilia Fetish - Incorporating food into sex foreplay.
     
  • Slave - In BDSM, a consenting submissive individual who has an ongoing relationship with a Dominant master, performing acts at the demand of the Master.
     
  • Slime Fetish - Deriving sexual arousal from slimy substances.
     
  • Soft Limits - In the BDSM community, an action or scene play that a participating individual is not really comfortable with now but, may be in the future.
     
  • Somnophilia Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused by sleeping individuals and engaging in sex with sleeping individuals.
     
  • Sounding Fetish - Receiving sexual satisfaction by in inserting plastic or metal sounds or long, thin smooth objects into the urethra of oneself or a consenting individuals urethra to inflict a mixture of pleasure and pain.
     
  • Spanking Bench  | Spanking Horse - In the BDSM community, a piece of furniture used to position an individual over who will be spanked.
     
  • Sploshing Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused by splashing watery foods on one's self or a consenting partner as an act of foreplay or for sexual gratification.
     
  • SSC | Safe, Sane and Consensual - Credentials used by BDSM practitioners to determine the appropriateness of BDSM play.
     
  • Stigmatophilia Fetish - Individual who is sexually aroused by receiving tattoos or body piercings.
     
  • Subdrop - An emotional or physiological state of a submissive that can sometimes follow a sex scene play. The state of mind of the sub can include a feeling of sadness, abandonment, loss or loneliness about the play. Possible remedies include good food, cuddling, warm blankets and watching the subs favorite movies with the Dominant of the scene.
     
  • Submissive | Sub - An individual who gives up power and control to a Dominant.
     
  • Subspace - State of mind of a submissive during heavy sex scene play where, adrenaline and endorphins of the sub are skyrocketing, creating an almost drug like induced effect. During subspace, many subs report their pain tolerance level soars, creating the desire to continue playing, even after a Dominant is done with the scene.
     
  • Suspension Bondage Fetish -Bondage fetish where a consenting individual is bound and hung from one or more overhead suspension points, while deriving sexual arousal from the act.
     
  • Switch - An individual who can play as a Dominant/top or Submissive/bottom during BDSM scenes.
     
  • Tantalolagnia - An individual who enjoys being sexually teased while masturbating or engaging in sex with another individual or individuals.
     
  • Tease and Denial - Sexually teasing and arousing an individual during a sex scene while delaying or preventing satisfaction of reaching an orgasm, keeping the individual in a continuous state of anticipatory tension to reach an orgasm.
     
  • Telephonicophilia Fetish - Reaching a high level of sexual arousal while engaging in dirty talk or phone sex.
     
  • Temperature Play - BDSM play that involves stimulation of the body's neuroreceptors for heat and cold for sexually sensual effect.
     
  • Thesauromania Fetish - A fetish for collecting women's panties or undergarments.
     
  • Tickle Torture - BDSM scene play whereby the bound submissive partner is tickled by the Dominant.
     
  • Tickling Fetish - A fetish of a submissive being tickled or the tickling of a submissive by the Dominant.
     
  • Tit Torture - BDSM play which entails causing intentional, deliberate physical pain to the breasts and/or nipples.
     
  • Titillagnia Fetish - Receiving sexual arousal by tickling other people.
     
  • TNG | The Next Generation - A tag used to refer to individuals age 18-35 who are involved in BDSM.
     
  • Top Fetish - The Dominant or top in a BDSM scene who prefers to be the individual in charge of directing or performing sexual activities.
     
  • Topdrop - An emotional or physiological state of the Dominant that can sometimes follow a sex scene play. The state of mind of the Dominant can include a feeling of sadness, abandonment, loss or loneliness about the play. Possible remedies include good food, cuddling, warm blankets and watching the tops favorite movies with the sub of the scene.
     
  • Topping From The Bottom - In a BDSM scene, a bottom who purports to be a submissive but who wants to direct the top.
     
  • Topspace - Psychological state of the Dominant which includes feelings of all-powerful euphoria and a desire to never stop.
     
  • Training - Effort of the Dominant to teach the submissive how to act.
     
  • Transformation Fetish | TF - A fetish for transforming or changing people into other people, objects or creatures.
     
  • Transvestic Fetishism - Individuals who are sexually aroused by female undergarments touching the male skin.
     
  • Triolism | Troilism - A fetish for threesomes or the fetish of watching your partner engage in sex with another person, while you are sexually involved with the scene.
     
  • Underwear Fetish - A fetish that usually involves men who like to smell, wear or collect unwashed panties of women.
     
  • Urethra Play - BDSM act that involves inserting objects into the urethra to inflict a mixture of pleasure and pain.
     
  • Urolagnia | Urophilia  Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused at the sight of or the thought of urine, urination, urinating on someone or having someone urinate on you.
     
  • Vanilla - Sexual behaviour that does not involve BDSM activity. Normal sex acts.
     
  • Vincilagnia Fetish - Becoming sexually aroused by being bound or tied up and at the mercy of another.
     
  • Voyeur | Voyeurism - Becoming sexually aroused by spying on others engaged in sex.
     
  • Warm Up - Start of a BDSM scene which involves gentle play, allowing the bottom or submissive to begin endorphin production, enter subspace and undergo physiological changes so that the sub thoroughly enjoys the scene.
     
  • Wartenberg Wheel - A small, very sharp-spiked wheel that can be rolled across the skin causing sexual arousal of both the giver and the receiver.
     
  • Water Bondage - Form of sexual restraint common in BDSM where water is used for the sex scene play.
     
  • Wax Play - BDSM play that involves a Dominant dropping hot wax from a burning candle, onto the skin of a consenting submissive.
     
  • Wet & Messy Fetish - Fetish acts that involve making a sex partner wet and messy with various, non-hazardous substances.
     
  • Zentai - A fetish in which participants wear Zentai suits which are skin tight and made from thin, stretchy fabric, in order to engage in anonymous sex with other Zentai enthusiasts or to participate in some anonymous dry humping.

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